What's your cake batter?

“If you want real control, drop the illusion of control. Let life live you. It does anyway." Byron Katie

I admit it, I'm a recovering control freak.

I used to believe that if I wanted something, I had to micro-manage exactly how it came to me.

How exhausting!

These days, once I know I want something, I do my best to chill out and know that it will come to me, probably in a way that I couldn't even imagine.

That's where the cake batter comes in.

Recently, a teacher of mine put it this way - as we live our life, we're constantly deciding what we want. We tend to identify single things - like a house, or a car, or a hot guy/gal. Let's call them the eggs, flour, and sugar.

Now, the Universe has taken what we want and mixed it all together (along with some things we forgot we wanted) to make a delicious cake batter. But we don't recognize the cake batter when we see it because we're so focused on looking for the eggs, flour, and sugar.

Case in point, Teddy.


If you know me at all, you know I love dogs. No, I really LOVE dogs.

I grew up wanting a dog more than anything but my family had allergies, so we never had one.

As an adult, the second I moved into an apartment that allowed animals, I got a dog. His name was Buddy, and he was the love of my life. He was a 13-pound Shih-Tzu/Poodle mix so he didn't shed and was absolutely adorable. I had him for 7 years before he was hit by a car in 2011.

Ever since then, I've gone back and forth about getting another dog. I travel a lot more now and still have allergies, so it's never felt like the right time.

Teddy (and his mom, Tena Moore of Social Bloom) lived with me for 6 months last year while Lucas was in Maine. Tena worked outside the house, so Teddy and I were home together a lot. We seriously bonded. And what a coincidence - he's a 13-pound Poodle mix who's absolutely adorable (and conveniently camouflages with my carpet).

When Tena and Teddy moved out, she asked if we would be open to watching Teddy on the days she works late. Of course, I jumped at the chance.  So now, we watch Teddy a few days a week. Tena drops him off along with his food, leash and toys.

A few weeks ago, the local Humane Society rescued 55 Shih-Tzu/Poodle mixes and put them up for adoption. It still didn't feel like the right time for me to get a dog of my own, but I was torn.

Then I realized that I already had my cake batter...Teddy. He's my favorite kind of dog, he's the size I love, he doesn't shed, he already knows and loves me, he's delivered to my door, I don't have to buy him anything, and I don't have to get out of bed to walk him when the weather's bad. Pretty perfect scenario for me, and one that I never would've come up with one my own.

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Maybe the day will come when I know a new dog is the right thing for me, but for now, Teddy and I are doing just fine. And the whole experience has helped me chillax and trust that everything I want is coming to me in ways that will surprise and delight me. CLICK TO TWEET

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To surprise and delight,