What's the greatest gift you can give?
"Presence is more than just being there."
If you're like me, certain books and teachers come to you at different times in your life and you react to them in different ways.
For example, when I first was introduced to Abraham-Hicks in 2008, I so wasn't ready for them. A friend put one of their recordings on in the car and I literally put my headphones on to drown them out. But when I heard them again in 2009, I was in total alignment with what they had to say and couldn't get enough.
I believe that happens because we are all constantly growing and expanding as human beings. So if you don't resonate with something at one moment in your life, you might later on when you have a new perspective on things.
I had this happen to me recently when I was reintroduced to the work of Eckhart Tolle. I first read Tolle when Oprah promoted his book, A New Earth (which is amazing, by the way). At the time, I was brand new to learning about spirituality and consciousness. While I enjoyed it, I don't think I was ready to fully absorb his message.
Fast forward to several years and a ton of spiritual study later, and now Eckhart's message of presence is exactly what I need to hear and work on. And I think it's the perfect time of year to focus on living in the now.
Let's face it - the holidays are usually pretty crazy. Combine end of year work/school deadlines with family obligations and holiday parties, not to mention the increased sugar and alcohol to get through it all, and throw in the added pressure of reviewing your year and planning for the new one...and it's wonder any of us survive, let alone are able to be present.
And yet presence is where all of the true enjoyment of any of these activities lies:
Being present to see the look of delight when your child opens his presents.
Really listening when your co-worker shares her stress about her visiting in-laws.
Taking a deep breath and really feeling the cold air on your skin as you pick out a tree.
Believe me, make being present your priority and you will notice the difference. Since focusing on living in the now, my body has relaxed and my monkey mind has quieted significantly.
Most importantly, the people in my life have noticed. I am more present for them in our visits and conversations. And even if they can't pinpoint exactly why our interactions feel different, they appreciate the difference.
This quote really blew me away the first time I read it. I know in my life, I've spent far too much time and energy trying to be perfect instead of just being present. And wow, is it ever easier to focus on being present with someone than being perfect for them! CLICK TO TWEET
Eckhart sums it up perfectly in The Power of Now:
"You are present with your whole Being, with every cell of your body. In that state, the "you" that has a past and a future - the personality, if you like - is hardly there anymore. And yet nothing of value is lost. You are still essentially yourself. In fact, you are more fully yourself than you ever were before, or rather it is only now that you are truly yourself."
Your turn - who can you be more present with this holiday season? A friend, a family member, yourself? Share your thoughts on our Facebook page. We can all use tips this time of year!
Loving you now,