Not feeling confident? Try this...

"Confidence comes from our preparation, because we know we're damn good." Hope Solo

This week, I watched an amazing movie called The Walk. If you haven't seen it, please check it out. It stars Joseph Gordon-Levitt as Philippe Petit, the man who successfully walked a tightrope strung between the World Trade Towers in 1974, one week before his 25th birthday.

For his unauthorized feat, he rigged a 450-pound cable and used a custom-made 26-foot long, 55-pound balancing pole. He performed for 45 minutes, making eight passes along the wire at a height of 1,350 feet without a safety wire. All charges were dropped on the condition that he put on a performance in Central Park for children.

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The film made me think a lot about preparation and how it leads to confidence. There was nothing intrinsically special about Petit. He didn't have freakishly webbed feet that allowed him to grasp the wire better than other people, and he didn't start performing when he was two years old. No, what differentiated him from every other person on the planet who didn't succeed (or even attempt) such a walk was his insane commitment to preparing for it. Petit, already a practiced high wire walker, first thought of his "coup" when he was 18, after reading about the construction of the Twin Towers in a magazine while sitting in a dentist's office. He then spent six years planning it, during which he learned everything he could about the buildings and their construction. I won't list everything he did (because it would take forever and give away a lot of the movie), but trust me, it's WAY more than you might think. And it was worth it - because all that preparation led to this...

[caption id="attachment_511" align="aligncenter" width="300"]Screen Shot 2016-01-19 at 12.19.43 PM Can you imagine what THIS feels like?!?![/caption] In light of my recent appearance on Your Worst Nightmare (which you can watch here:), a lot of people have said to me things like, "I could never cry on command", or "I've always wanted to act, but it's just not in the cards for me."
To which I say, I am not special. What I mean is, someone didn't just come along and magically pick me up off the street to star in a TV show (even though I wasted years waiting for them to!).

No, I spent the last four years in acting classes, auditioning for countless jobs, taking unpaid gigs for experience, and most importantly, making a lot of mistakes that I learned from.

So when I got my shot, I didn't feel scared or nervous....I felt ready. I felt confident. I felt excited. 

Exactly how Mr. Petit felt on his walk, I imagine.

It's easy to buy into the fantasy of quick fixes like winning the Powerball, having your perfect body after a weekend cleanse, or being discovered by a famous director in a mall.

But those things rarely happen because deep down, we don't feel we deserve them...because we haven't put the work in.

When we spend time preparing for something we want, we systematically raise our belief level that it can happen for us and that we deserve it. CLICK TO TWEET 

Without that preparation time, if our "if only" happens, it probably will be short-lived. Just think of all those one-hit wonders, yo-yo dieters, and lottery winners who were broke within a few years of hitting it big.

Being an overnight success may seem glamorous and alluring, but trust me, slow and steady wins the race.

What's something big you want, and what's one step you can take today to begin your journey to it? Or, if you accomplished something people were amazed at, how did you break it down into more manageable bites?

Please share your story on our Facebook page. Because like my man Earl Nightingale said, "Never give up on a dream because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway."

To all my preppers out there,
Emily