Judge much?

Can I first just say how awesome it is that Spring is here?!?! I don’t how the weather is where you are, but here in Asheville, we made it through a week of non-stop rain and are definitely reaping the benefits. So many flowers, so little time!!! Last week I had lunch with a dear friend of mine, Terry Bowling. Terry and I met a few years ago when I was in the real estate business. I called a contractor to come look at a property I was interested in, and up pulls Terry in his pickup truck - all 6’ 3”, 350 pounds of him. I expected another good ol’ boy, but the first thing he did was notice my raw foods bumper sticker and say with a big, bright smile, “I love raw foods! Do you juice?” Needless to say, we hit it off immediately. After I left real estate, we saw each other less and less, so several months had gone by before our lunch. When he walked into the restaurant, I almost didn’t recognize him. Terry has lost 75 pounds in the last two months just by adding green juice to his diet in the mornings and evenings! He looks great, feels great, and has even started a website to share his journey and help others. Screen Shot 2015-04-22 at 3.59.18 PM Way to go, Terry!!! I am so proud of you!!! This got me thinking about how easy it is to be critical of other people on their paths to health. Most health-focused people would have judged Terry if they’d met him last year. He was overweight and not seeming to care or do much about it. I’m another great example. If you’d met me 8 years ago, you wouldn’t have recognized me. I was taking 25 pills a day, was wicked sick, and eating the worst of the worst (my typical dinner was frozen pizza, Ben & Jerry’s and Diet Coke... seriously). The point is, it’s so easy for us to judge others - and such a waste to do so. You never know where someone is on their path, and judging them as being “wrong” or “bad” only helps to keep them stuck where they are. On the other hand, seeing someone going through a tough time as being in the perfect and right place on their path opens up space for them to make changes. Whether the changes happen that week or in 10 years, who cares? We’re all on a spiritual journey, and who’s to say that the way you do something is better or worse than how anyone else is doing it? If you give up the judgment, that person will feel your supportive energy and be more apt to ask you for support and guidance. When I first “went raw,” I hounded my family about improving their diets. Looking back, I was pushy and obnoxious. Once I gave up and just appreciated them for who and where they were, they gradually started making small changes on their own. It wasn't the overnight 100% change I had made, but change is change. Some people are all-or-nothing people, like me, while others prefer gradual shifts. Do what works for you! Screen Shot 2015-04-22 at 4.02.02 PM Does this guy motivate you to be healthier? I didn't think so. According to the Law of Attraction, we get what we think about - and that doesn’t just apply to material things. If I am judging and criticizing someone, I am calling more judgement and criticism into my life. If I am complaining, I am calling in more to complain about. But if I am focusing on positive aspects about someone, I am attracting more of that behavior and energy from them. That’s why Mother Teresa famously said, “I was once asked why I don't participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there.” And this goes double for ourselves. Even if you are a pretty “live and let live” person, how often do you judge yourself for some behavior you’ve deemed as wrong? Let’s nix that right here and now. Because you, my friend, are an amazing, powerful, spiritual being, alive on planet Earth and doing your best. And your best is always good enough. Sayonara, Judgy McJudgerson, Emily PS- Please join us over on Instagram - we’re having so much fun and want you in on it!