If you're doing this, no one can love you...

“When not wearing their masks, kindred souls can see each other."
Francine Portelance

With all the teachers, gurus, and mentors out there today, it can feel overwhelming. I know I've had to unsubscribe from many a list - not because the person's or organization's content was bad, but because my inbox would explode if I didn't.

There are a select few to whom I remain faithful. These are the people whose emails I actually look forward to and would miss if they didn't send them. People like Marie Forleo, Deepak Chopra, Kris Carr.

People like Mastin Kipp.

Mastin is the founder of the wildly successful The Daily Love. What started as a blog written by a lost man living in his friend's pool house has gone onto to become an online spiritual force. Even Miss O herself has given Mastin her stamp of approval.

So when I saw that Mastin would be in Asheville on his Unstuck Tour, I knew I had to be there. Not because I necessarily felt stuck in my life, but because I want to be in contact with as many high-vibe people who are out there making a difference as possible.

I didn't feel like a fan buying my ticket, I felt like a peer. And that was a great feeling.


Now I was crazy tired when I made it to the event without a minute to spare. I had woken up that morning at 5:30 a.m. in Raleigh, and had just made it back to Asheville after driving non-stop for four hours. I literally ran into the event location's bathroom to change out of the dress I had worn all day into some yoga gear.

Mastin was rocking it as only he can but, I admit, I was almost drifting off, having hit my limit for the day.

Then he said something that woke me right up. While coaching an audience member who was afraid to speak publicly about her abusive childhood for fear of alienating her mother, Mastin told her:

"If you wear a mask, no one will ever love the real you." CLICK TO TWEET

Talk about a spiritual bitchslap! (in a loving, supportive way, of course:)

You see, we're all taught to wear masks - identities that aren't really us, but are easier for some person or segment of society to accept as safe. Some are taught by their parents, others by teachers, bosses, friends...the list goes on and on.

We wear those masks for so long, we forget what they're covering up.

I used to wear lots of masks. They included the "Happy to Be a Lawyer" facade, the "Living with Chronic Pain" perma-smile, and the "Can't Wait to Be a Mom" front.

But here's the thing: we're all called to grow and expand in this life. And that in and of itself is hard work. When we wear masks, we make that work virtually impossible.

How can you become more of yourself when you're pretending to be someone else? And how can people support you when they don't know who you really are?
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I know firsthand how scary it can be to take off the masks. People you've known your entire life will no longer recognize you - and may even reject you.

But I also know that by being as much of yourself as you can, eventually you will attract people who love you for exactly who you are. And that makes the work of our lives surprisingly easier.

Your turn: are you wearing a mask for someone that you want to take off? Or have you recently ditched a mask that lightened your load? Please come over to our Facebook page and share your story. It'll be nice to see the real you!

Because the real you is so beautiful,