As many of you know, I’m a big fan of the work of Abraham-Hicks. They teach the Law of Attraction. Not the watered-down, “Secret” kind of law of attraction where if you think about a car, a car will magically arrive in your driveway.
No, I’m talking about the real deal, how-you-create-your-own-reality law of attraction where people start asking you what you’re doing because your life is so cool and seems to unfold in such magical ways.
Abraham teaches that everything is vibration and that like attracts like. So, for example, if you’re constantly thinking and talking about how your job sucks, the universe is going to bring you more experiences at work that suck. The universe will keep bringing you more of what you believe to be true, no matter how much you wish things were different.
I can hear the question now - “But, Emily, I think so many thoughts in a day, how can I possibly keep track of them all?” There are two ways. First, take a look at what you’re currently living. If it’s a match to what you want or close to it, you’re doing just fine. But it’s not even close to what you’d want in an ideal world, then you know that, more often than not, you’re thinking about the lack of what you want instead of what you want.
The second way is to tune into how you’re feeling. Our emotions are our very own personal guidance system, designed to let us know if we’re moving in the direction of what we want or if we’re just headed for more of the same. If overall you feel joy, passion, elation, gratitude, etc., you’re on the right path. Keep focusing on what you’re focusing on and you’ll be just fine.
On the other hand, if in any given moment you feel fear, worry, anger, blame, resentment, etc., that’s your way of knowing that the thought you’re thinking doesn’t jive with what Source is thinking about that very same subject. For example, if you hate someone, that terrible feeling inside your body is your indicator that Source loves that person. It’s your separation from Source that makes you feel so bad, not the other person or what they’re doing.
Crazy when you first realize it, but once you get the hang of it, it’s very empowering. You’re no longer at the whim of outside circumstances and can take back the power of creating what you want in life, regardless of what anyone else is doing.
For a long time, though, I thought I had to hold myself in a constant state of ecstasy in order to allow in all the cool things I wanted, which actually stressed me out. I mean, ecstasy is awesome, but making it a permanent state honestly sounds exhausting. Especially when I’m feeling down about something - sometimes, it feels utterly impossible to make the leap from depression to joy. And in the past, I’d beat myself up for not being able to do so. The cool thing is that you don’t have to be absolutely blissful all the time.
Instead, I’ve discovered a short-cut...Satisfaction.
(Cue Rolling Stone song or Justine Bateman movie:)
Satisfaction is my secret sauce because it’s easy. I don’t have to find something in every moment to feel elation about (because, let’s face it, sometimes that’s pretty difficult to do). But in every moment, I CAN find something to be satisfied with. For example, right now looking around me:
I’m satisfied to be writing this on my MacBook Pro.
I’m satisfied looking out the window and seeing Mission Bay.
I’m satisfied knowing I have a yummy dinner in my near future.
The cool thing is, the more things I find to be satisfied with, the better I feel. It’s a process that builds on itself. So I can start pretty much anywhere and in a fairly short period of time, I’m not only just satisfied, I start to feel all those higher vibe feelings, like joy and exhilaration.
Of course, the trick is not to look for satisfaction where you’ve already got resistance. For example, if money’s tight, don’t look at your checkbook trying to find satisfaction. It’s too big of a jump and you’ll feel like a fraud. Instead, look for other things that satisfy you - like your kids, your dog, your garden, your partner, whatever.
And as you raise your vibe by focusing on those things, you’ll eventually be able to look at the subject that was bringing you down before in a new light. You’ll get ideas of how to shift it or you’ll meet someone who can help. But so often we try to hammer away at the problem, which never works. My man Einstein said it best, “We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
I recently met someone who doesn’t like his job and he told me he wants out. He was listing off all the things that are wrong with his current situation and I could feel the pain he was in. I suggested he start focusing on the things at his current job to be satisfied with (because you can’t attract in a job you love by hating the job you’re in). He gave it a try and started listing off a few positive things about his current gig. Within about 30 seconds, his eyes lit up and he said, “Wow, that does feel better!”
I could feel he got it. He felt the shift for himself and I have no doubt that if he keeps it up, he’ll attract in a much better situation very quickly. We all have that power, if we get out of our own way and really focus on the good in life.
So what’s something in your life right now that is truly satisfying? I’d love to hear all about it so I can share in all your yummy vibes.Sing it with me…”I can get more...Satisfaction!”